It also debates in how sex, through women, is employed to promote and sell most things, which in turn objectives women. Besides, promotions that depict exemplary looking models set unrealistic goals for womenвЂ™s beauty. On the other hand, вЂњKilling Us SoftlyвЂќ communicates how advertising through womenвЂ™s bodies lowers the self-esteem of women and dehumanizes them. Additionally, it examines the associations of the language socialized with masculinity, вЂњbe a man,вЂќ or вЂњman up,вЂќ for instance. The film demonstrates the activities men undertake to demonstrate the hyper-masculinity they feel they are obligated to show and suppress any feminine attributes. вЂњThe Mask You Live InвЂќ provides inspiring ideas regarding the sociological and psychological effects created by expectations of masculinity. The documentaries, вЂњThe Mask You Live InвЂќ and вЂњKilling Us Softly 4,вЂќ demonstrate the expectations society has on both the male and female genders. Tony Bravo is a Datebook Seen columnist and the author of StyleвЂ™s Connectivity column.The Mask You Live In and Killing Us Softly My husband and I have never told either our son or our daughter that it wasnвЂ™t OK to cry.вЂќ Reflecting on MarshallвЂ™s advice, she proudly declared: вЂњWeвЂ™re ahead of the culture. Representation Project board member Andrew Zenoff reminded men and women that вЂњitвЂ™s easy for each gender to forget they have a place in both sides of the discussion, but we all have a stake here.вЂќДЇor Leila Radan, keeping the lines of dialogue open with her 12-year-old son is a key part of ending harmful gendered behavior stereotypes. After having fought against bullying in her sonsвЂ™ schools, she said she hopes вЂњboys and men see this film and feel some relief knowing theyвЂ™re not alone in this.вЂќ вЂњI had to freshen my makeup after the screening,вЂќ Lorre Erlick, a mother of two sons, said. boutique in Union Square, the discussion continued. вЂњI canвЂ™t wait for the system to get things right, and neither can these boys.вЂќДЄt the after-party at the Brooks Bros. вЂњThe hangups of masculinity are at the roots of a lot of the problems,вЂќ Steyer said, later adding that although the issues men face may be universal, вЂњthe consequences are different for boys from Oakland than they are for boys in Pacific Heights.вЂќД«ranch, who left a career in engineering for teaching, voiced frustration that it was taking so long to have this discussion.

We knew we had to take a look at the limiting, unhealthy narratives the culture is feeding boys on what it is to be a man.вЂќДЄfterward, Noah Cowan, San Francisco Film Society executive director, led Siebel Newsom and вЂњMaskвЂќ commentators Marshall Common Sense Media founder James Steyer and Ashanti Branch, assistant principal of OaklandвЂ™s Montera Middle School, in a discussion on what course corrections were needed in society. TheyвЂ™re more likely to binge-drink, and theyвЂ™re more likely to commit violent crimes and take their own lives. TheyвЂ™re more likely to be expelled or flunk out of school. While gathering research for the film, Siebel Newsom discovered statistics that вЂњboys were more likely than girls to be diagnosed with a behavioral disorder and prescribed medications. Everywhere I went, people thanked me for making the film but also asked, 'What about our boys? ArenвЂ™t we also failing our boys?вЂ™вЂќ вЂњI was pregnant with our son Hunter and traveling to places as far away as Abu Dhabi and as close to home as neighborhood schools. Siebel Newsom conceived вЂњMaskвЂќ while on tour with her 2011 girl-focused documentary, вЂњMiss Representation.вЂќ вЂњProbably a local kid,вЂќ an audience member quipped. The biggest laugh of the night went to author and clinical psychologist Madeline Levinewho shook her head as she talked about an 8-year-old boy who was already so absorbed in the male narrative of wealth accumulation that he was planning on becoming a venture capitalist when he grew up. Some of the men in attendance had a head start: After hearing the stories in the film, which include testimonials from San Quentin lifers, media analysts and everyday men who struggled to overcome ideals of masculine stoicism, many men were wiping away tears.Д«ut the film wasnвЂ™t without its moments of levity. implored the audience to вЂњstop telling our boys not to cry.вЂќ The theme is such a strong through-line in the film that after the screening, community activist Dr.

вЂњThe Mask You Live InвЂќ begins and ends with a rumination on the cultural expectation that boys donвЂ™t cry. вЂњI wanted not only to examine what was going on with our boys, but also help them be part of a larger gender-equality solution.вЂќ вЂњWeвЂ™re in the business of creating cultural change and influencing a larger gender-equality movement,вЂќ Siebel Newsom said of the film and her larger work with her organization, the Representation Project.

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